Hi from Church Camp

I didn't attend Vacation Bible School when I was little. Catholic doctrine every school day for nine months plus Sunday mass must have seemed adequate for my Jesus learnin'. Summers were for hanging out with heathens anyway, right? Needless to say, I didn't know how to explain Vacation Bible School to Baby Girl. I told her all day that we were going to Bible camp. Girlfriend knows that certain books in our house are called Bible, but I'm not sure she knows the theological weight they carry. What I do know is that every time this one particular gal pal comes over, who happens to be Jewish, Baby Girl goes and fetches her children's picture Bible and insists our friend read it aloud to her. Sneaky little evangelist, that one. Anyway, I wasn't sure if she would dig Vacay Bible Pow-wow Boot Camp Thing since I wasn't able to give her a sense of the what, who, how, why...only the when...but on our way there tonight, she said, "We're going to church camp?" Duh, mama. Why didn't you just distill it like that?

It was a little over her head, the games and skit-making and so forth. And she kept looking for the organist. But there were juiceboxes? So maybe we'll go back tomorrow?

Trophy Babies

This is my trophy son wrapped in a frog towel.

This is my trophy daughter who once upon a time was swaddled in that same towel.

This is my trophy son demonstrating male pattern balding.

This is my trophy daughter with her movie star hair and superstar shades.

This is my trophy son taking a nap and looking like he could be rotisseried.

This is my trophy daughter interrupting that nap.

This is my trophy daughter so tuckered out that she fell into naptime half seated on a comfy chair.

This is me proudly holding one of my babies as if he were a trophy, and the truth is that he is hardly such a totem.  A trophy is sought after and earned, flaunted, and then stacked high on a shelf or shielded in a case to be admired and perhaps forgotten.  My babies are on lease to me, I didn't earn them, they are not mine to flaunt or showcase.  But you can be sure I will never ever place them on a high shelf.  At least not one that can't be reached with a stepstool.

Absence, Pneumonia, George Bailey, Rainstorms

Have you ever just not shown up? For your own life?

Just kind of kept hitting snooze and hoped your own reality would understand?

I do this, often.  I just get all busy about being busy and then I burn out and then I can't be bothered with my actual LIFE life portion of the program.

In college?  I pretended to be sick for MAKE A DIFFERENCE DAY.  Who skips out on Make a Difference Day?  That's like saying, "I do not want to make a difference.  I want world hunger to persist and I want my part in remedying it to remain unspoiled.  It is more important for me to catch up on my napping because I am a college student and I do not nap nearly enough three times a day to interrupt naptime for a couple hours of service to my community for which I will receive a free t-shirt and many donut holes." I apparently skip out on Make a Difference Day.  I pretended to Not Hear the voicemails from all of my earnest friends telling me they'd wait another 15 minutes for me...maybe I was still in the shower...or maybe I got the meeting place wrong or...

Maybe I just was an epic fail of a person at showing up for her own life.

In my home, you would not believe how often I fail to show up.  Um, hallo. Clearly too busy here watching "House Hunters" and "Design on a Dime" to swiff the floor right now!  Or paint a cream-colored wall covered in finger prints that I ruefully stare at every day wondering why I have lived here 3 years and still expect Kool-Aid man to come bursting through the wall and give me an excuse to give that wall some attention.

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This week, the following happened:

Lovey Loverpants got pneumonia.

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This week, I started showing up for my own life.

I did dishes and laundry and spent time cleaning a home in which the mess was not mine, all of which I have failed to show up to do for months and months and months.

I went grocery shopping with Little Man at 7 a.m.

I bathed Little Man at midnight o'clock, and then rocked him while singing to Baby Girl at dead tired o'clock.

I learned to redirect Baby Girl's petulant behavior. I schlepped Baby Girl to daycare even though she just started falling to pieces about going.

I prayed and I prayed and I prayed.  For strength. ***

The strength came.  It came from the recesses of places in my mind and heart that had grown dim and moldy from inattention.  You know the part in "It's a Wonderful Life" when George Bailey scampers around the house just loving on his old dilapidated home with the drafts and shifty staircase?  That's how I felt this week.  I felt delirious from the exhaustion, but also delirious from the reminder that, Ahh, this life is just a mess, a great complicated mess, but how lucky I am with this gorgeously messy family to care for and this simple purpose:  just to make sure there are bananas and cereal and clean cloth diapers and the crumby floors get picked up so that there are no ant picnics indoors.

Oh, this messy, simple, loud and gorgeous life!!!!! ***

Loverpants, please get better soon, though.  I would make an awful single parent, and we know you are suffering and we miss you so.

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Here is Baby Girl looking up at me.  We are playing a game called "On your marks..."  It is a very complicated game we invented, no one could possibly have come up with it other than we, especially since we made it up in a rainstorm.

Little Man.  Love.