The last meal of my twenties

We flew into Charlotte, NC because, ahem, JETBLUE!!! Yeah, I know, I'm about eleven years late to the JETBLUE!!! party (and did you hear about this great show "Gilmore Girls"? Because it's really fabulous). That JETBLUE!!! really is something, though. They seem to abide by the philosophy that if you just keep the passengers snacking and headphoned with full cable access, the flight should go smoothly. My lands, those JETBLUE!!! peeps be smart. Ultimately, though, we were headed to Asheville, NC where we spent the last four days, and more specifically where I spent four days asking Lovey Loverpants if we could spend another four days in Asheville, NC. Asheville, you ravished me so!!

But anyway, on the way from Charlotte to Asheville, we stopped at Nowhere In Particular Exit Off North Carolina Interstate and Loverpants said, "Where do we want to eat?" to which I said, "The least shady place." We passed menfolk trying to pass as long-haired boys hanging out at the gas n' sip with their banana yellow muscle cars (there were multiple!) and pulled in to the WAFFLE HOUSE. I was a tinge nervous that I had hyped up WAFFLE HOUSE in my head based on the vestigial sense memory I have of going there in 1990 with my parents en route to Dallas, TX (from Cleveland, OH, in a light blue minivan, uggggo!) but let me tell you, the waffle I ate on Thursday night --the last meal of my twentysomethings -- did not disappoint.

Loverpants took a bite. Oh the buttery mouth-melting fluffiness of it.

Loverpants said to the waitress who was hovering in a friendly yet slightly disconcerting way that he had never been to a WAFFLE HOUSE before. "That waffle is so good!" he said.

"That's what we're famous for," said the waitress, with pride and authority...

...at which point I nearly fell out of my chair from the shock.

STOP IT RIGHT THERE.

You kid.

WAFFLE HOUSE? Is famous for WAFFLES?

Are you certain it's not Long John Silver's? I mean. You're sure?

Palpable

There were moments when I could see it, feel it on her face.  Moments of recognition that, This is Love.  Love is here. I am known, loved, counted among the special. I saw my daughter fall in love with her family, her extendeds, people whom she has only known through quarterly visits and digital images.  I could see her melting into their hugs and finding the arc in their laughter where trust and vulnerability live.

7 days in Ohio, in the home where I got busted multiple times for getting nail polish on cherry oak furniture, where I played endless games of Uno, where I learned how to read and read my mother's angry face and fell asleep under lit Christmas trees in a California Raisins sleeping bag.

Now my daughter sleeps on that floor, in the same California Raisins sleeping bag, and wakes up to a different hum in the morning than I remember, but one no less sweet.

Oh how it pained me to leave, but double the torment of pulling my baby girl away from this fanclub of fandamily.  Little Man will come to know the club soon and well enough in time.  But this last visit was monumental for Baby Girl.  She has inside jokes with her Uncle Mikie.  She has special songs with her grandparents and there are toys retained in their basements only for her.

I have believed for the last couple of years that this wide geographic divide between our families was overrated.  And after this last visit home, I am convinced that it is downright cruel.  But I'm trying to be content in the present and hopeful for the future and keeping a look-out for opportunities....lots of opportunities.....

The land of Cleve, on the shores of Erie

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Go Buckeyes

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Do the grandmothers in your family enjoy giving children baths as much as mine seem to?

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Auntie TP

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Baby Girl was so stoked to have cousins. She had prior to this told me about imaginary cousins that had given her presents...

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Chillin' with Uncle Mikie

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My wonderful in-laws came to have lunch on sabbath at my mama's. I made quinoa. It wasn't terrible.

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My mama. My baby.

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Swimming at my old man's

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